All dreams are up for interpretation, but sex dreams can be particularly confusing. They can reveal a lot about your own sexual desires and fantasies.
Having a sex dream about a family member may sound weird, but Wallace says it doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to have sex with them. Rather, it often reflects some admirable character trait that you want to incorporate into your own life.
1. Sleep in a specific position
Apparently, the position you sleep in at night can influence your dreams. A study found that people who sleep on their stomachs are more likely to have sexy dreams, perhaps because it puts pressure on the genitals which can translate into sexual images in the dream.
Other factors, like how satisfied you are in your relationship or whether you’ve been masturbating lately can also have an impact. And, of course, the more you think about sex during the day, the more it’ll be in your dreams.
So if you want to have sexy dreams, it might be worth changing up your sleeping position or taking some other steps to get your libido fired up. For instance, reading a sexy novel or listening to sexy audio stories may help you entice those steamy dreams. Alternatively, you could try the lucid dreaming technique, which involves a bit of practice but can lead to some pretty steamy wet dreams. Just remember not to overthink it – you don’t want to wake up with a mess to clean up!
2. Get a good night’s sleep
Getting a good night’s sleep is key to having a sexy dream. Not only will it help you fall asleep faster, but a well-rested person is also more likely to be receptive to sexual stimuli while they’re sleeping.
You can also try putting on some erotic music or reading a sensual bedtime story before you go to bed to prime your mind for sexual arousal in dreams. For example, the Dipsea app has a section of bedtime stories that are more provocative than your standard lullabies and can help you get psyched for sexual fantasy in your dreams.
While you can’t control what you’ll dream about, you can set the stage for sexy fantasies by changing your sleepwear and sheets. Plus, incorporating sexy sensory stimulation like using a silk scarf or feather to tickle your erogenous zones will help you feel even more arousal while you’re dreaming about sexy things.
3. Think about your partner before bed
Sex dreams can be a lot more than just fantasy — they can also reveal emotional needs that you may not even realize you have. “If you’re dreaming about a particular person, it may indicate that you have an active (or overactive) libido,” says sexologist Jess O’Reilly. In this case, she recommends open communication with your partner and a little orgasmic meditation before bed to help stimulate arousal.
On the other hand, if you’re dreaming about your boss, it could be an indication that you need to become more empowered in your life. And if you’re dreaming about your ex, it might mean that you need to work with a therapist to overcome unresolved grief.
However, don’t take your sex dreams too literally. They’re a reflection of your subconscious thoughts throughout the day, and most often than not, they’re not a sign that you want to jump into bed with someone IRL. In fact, it’s much more likely that they suggest a desire for variety and exploration in your current relationship. To encourage this, try creating a sexy bedroom environment by wearing sexy pajamas or lingerie before you head to sleep and listening to erotic music.
4. Listen to erotic music
Sex dreams aren’t just for sexy 90s teen movies; they can also help you understand your own sexual desires and inspire fantasies to act out with your partner, a sexologist explains. However, they don’t always happen naturally.
One way to increase your chances of having sexy dreams is to listen to erotic music before you go to sleep. You can even try using sexy toys to stimulate your erogenous zones and increase pleasure in your dreaming.
Another trick is to practice lucid dreaming. This is a state where you become aware that you’re dreaming while you’re still in your dreams, which can allow you to control elements of the storyline and live out your wildest fantasies.
Just remember that even though the person you’re dreaming about may be attractive in your dream, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have feelings for them in real life. And, it’s not uncommon to dream about people you don’t even have a romantic interest in. Dreams often reflect our conscious and subconscious thoughts and desires.
5. Practice lucid dreaming
It’s no secret that sexual dreams are highly arousing and can feel just as real as real-life sex. These sexual experiences are one of the major motivations for many people to learn how to become lucid dreamers. However, learning how to manipulate your dreams for erotic purposes is not an easy task.
To start, it’s important to remember that the most arousing dreams are often ones that take place during the REM stage of sleep, which is also when people experience sexual arousal in real life. However, it’s also important to remember that sex dreams aren’t necessarily meant to be taken literally. Instead, they can serve as a way to explore your sexual desires in an environment that is safe and controlled.
The first step is to practice lucid dreaming. For this, it’s recommended that you listen to erotic audiobooks or sexy podcasts before bed. This can help you to get more comfortable with the idea of having a sexual dream, and it can also help you to relax before you fall asleep. Afterwards, try to make a connection with a desired dream figure. Talking to them and learning about them can help you to arouse them, which may lead to an orgasm in your dream.
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